Healthy christian dating
The authors remind the readers that we ought to “bring dating before God and ask for his guidance.
After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?
Return to Article Index Return to Audio Index It seems like there should be a verse that reads, “To everyone God has apportioned at least one difficult person.” The truth is that we all have relationships that drive us to distraction, and one key challenge is figuring out how to set Christian boundaries. We see this in Jesus’ life, which is why He often had to set boundaries. Love their soul – Love is not taking the easy way out by being “nice.” Nice is an American concept, love is the biblical goal. Love sincerely – Love is the key ingredient in every relationship.
The good news is that while it is hard to set boundaries, you can learn to do it. He drove sellers out of the temple, rebuked the Pharisees’ hypocrisy, turned potential followers away, and left the disciples to spend alone time with God. When you love someone, everything you do is for him and nothing you do or say comes from a vengeful or punishing perspective. Have supportive relationships – Surround yourself with godly friends who will encourage and support you in doing the right thing. Take responsibility for your own actions – Rarely is the problem the fault of only one person. Be patient – A warning, if not accompanied with patience, is an ultimatum.
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage means dating with a purpose.
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later).
It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Establishing principles for Christian dating will set men and women on a course towards Christ-centered marriages. Here are 10 important principles for Christian dating. That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despites difficulties and differences. I fear this mentality in the dating culture is actually promoting divorce. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience.
Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.
“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.
Despite over a decade of prayer, a proper attitude toward the commitment and responsibility of marriage, and realistic expectations, it just hasn’t happened. But, at the same time, in this long season of singleness, I’ve had a lot of time to think and pray about these things.
I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!